FIGHTING THE BATTLE BETWEEN WORK AND LOVE….CONFESSIONS OF A WORKAHOLIC BY @DETROITDATE
On any given day, when I am immersed in whatever my latest project is, I’m that person who forgets to eat, return calls or emails and is the definition of a workaholic. I will literally write or work until I cannot stand it and I have to shut my laptop. I forget that there is a whole big world beyond my work.
A couple of weeks ago my son tattled on me to his auntie. He told her that I work 24/7 and that he wanted me to spend more time with him. When she asked him why he didn’t come to me about this problem, he said that he was afraid that I would get mad. When I thought about it, not only was he right about the hours that I work…….
This question came to me this week, “Is the sugar baby lifestyle bad”? The short answer to this question is NO! Of course my detractors in the world will say that I am dead wrong and list about 157 puritanical reasons as to why we should be ashamed of ourselves. Pfft…. I could turn around and list my 157 reasons why we should all just live and let live.
As a society we have come leaps and bounds since the pilgrims first set foot down on Plymouth Rock. We have however managed to cling to certain ideals unnecessarily. Man, society, lifestyle, standards and definitions of love have evolved into so many different things. We no longer brand women with a very obvious scarlet letter. We do shame her publically though if we even think she is a cheater. We say that men can marry men, but some states still fight it as standard law.
I am not here to change everyone, but I will always fight the masses when it comes to lifestyle choice. For instance, I believe that monogamy is not for everyone. Polyamory is not just a fad folks. Homosexuality happens naturally. Would you say poly or being gay is bad? I already know that most would say monogamy is the way to go. Hell, Patti Stanger makes it a rule in her matchmaking club. I refuse to believe that we are all the same and societal norms fit every person, situation or group. Individuality or uniqueness is what makes us a “melting pot”.
Let me bring it back home to my original question. Firstly, someone please define the word bad. The dictionary says the following:
- [bad] adjective, worse, worst; not good in any manner or degree.
- having a wicked or evil character; morally reprehensible: There is no such thing as a bad boy.
- of poor or inferior quality; defective; deficient: a bad diamond; a bad spark plug.
- inadequate or below standard; not satisfactory for use: bad heating; Living conditions in some areasare very bad.
- inaccurate, incorrect, or faulty: a bad guess.