I think there are two types of women when it comes to giving oral sex. Those who love to tease their man and love to see him sputter under her control. And then the other ones who would have nothing to do with that, as it is sinful and dirty in some way (that’s the minority of women, I hope!)
And I also believe that the way someone thinks about oral sex shows a lot about their personality, in a way. Am I over thinking this? Not really. The person who will willingly do this without hesitation will be the lady who enjoys pleasing her man and she feels empowered, in a way, by doing so. At first it may seem that the woman would feel that is being submitted to something, given the fact that the man lays there waiting to be pleased.. However, I propose that oral sex gives the woman a lot of power and control. She has her man literally by the penis and she is singlehandedly responsible for creating immense pleasure for him. At that time he is subject to her whims and she has the upper hand. Think, ladies, how trusting and vulnerable he is at that precious moment. You are surrounding his manhood with your ruby red lips, and you love how he moans and you also appreciate the feel and texture of his penis. And, he looks down on you as you do all this, and you look up at him as well, thereby throwing in some porn star stuff for extra effect.
Now, the second category of women are those who detest guys going down on them: You know, the one that says ‘I can go down on you, but its ok, you don’t have to reciprocate, not into that’.
I never knew what the fuss was all about. I guess people get self conscious. But on the other hand, isn’t sexual pleasure all about communicating, relaxing, and exploring? Then again some ladies may prefer something more mutually pleasing, like just straight sex. I once had a woman tell me she felt weird seeing some guy’s face between her legs, when only his eyes showed (the rest of his face buried in her vagina I assume!). I guess it was too much of a visual effect for her and she kept getting distracted.
Then again its could also be cultural. I was told that Asian women don’t enjoy that, it’s not considered good in their cultures. Or was that just an excuse for me not to go near there? Oh the things a guy hears when dating…
One thing is for sure: Don’t stop giving’em blow jobs!
As always, just one man’s opinion
David Montrose is an ex-sugar daddy and the author of ‘Sugar Daddy Diary’ where he accounts his dating experiences from a man’s viewpoint