Dear Women Everywhere…

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Chances are if you are reading this, you are a sugar baby or interested in becoming one.  On the off chance you are neither, this post is really meant for you anyway.  I did a radio interview yesterday with a lovely girl from Cambridge Univ (UK).  It is one of many interviews I have given in the past few weeks.  I am always eager and happy to accept these invitations, because I feel that people in general have the wrong idea about who we are as sugar babies and why we do what we do.

Naturally I get the “prostitute” question quite a bit. The general public has such difficulty not seeing sugar relationships as sex for money. I will repeat myself for the one millionth time. If you call me a prostitute, take a look in the mirror sister.  For every house wife simply hanging in there and/or sticking it out in an unhappy marriage for the financial security, welcome to a mutually beneficial relationship. He is still getting a wife and family to show off. His marriage is “in tact”and you still have a roof over your head, and food in your belly.  Believe me ladies, if there was not such a stigma and guilt factor placed on men to “do the right thing” by their families, the divorce rate would be much higher.  I’d also venture to guess that men would be less likely to get married if society would generally accept that monogamy is not for everyone.

Regardless of the type of relationship you have, wish you had now, hope you’ll have some day or choose to turn a blind eye to; you should take a little inventory.  Every woman should have a conversation with herself about who she is and what she wants.  Even if you will never admit certain truths to a friend or family member, please dear God, be honest with yourself.  More importantly, open your eyes and mind to what is outside of your bubble.  As a non-sugar woman, do you look at life and what it has to offer in an unobstructed way? Has your view thus far been influenced by what is known to be socially acceptable, as opposed to what you feel (and absolutely know) is right for you?

I think that as much as wives, girlfriends and non-sugar women in general everywhere dislike sugar babies and call us names; they secretly wish they had the balls to live as freely as a sugar baby. They are a little jealous of any woman who can carry herself in a way that she wishes she could.  They throw stones at her, but really she wants to be a bit like her.  Let’s face it though.  We are not all created equally.  Some women just have “it”.  That it factor that makes them ultra desirable on every level.  She is naturally sexy, smart, wildly engaging and slightly mysterious. Don’t hate on her, learn from her. Educate yourself on how to be more like her.

I will leave you with that thought for now, but will pick this conversation back up this week…


4 thoughts on “Dear Women Everywhere…

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    IvyWin said:
    February 6, 2014 at 12:15 am

    I suffer from what I call ‘old-soul syndrome’. I say this because as a girl in her twenties I feel I’ve lived a thousand lives and yet I’ve wasted so much time in this life subconsciously trying to conform to what society deems ‘acceptable’ (in my relationships), when deep down I’ve never cared what other people think of me, and thank God, I never plan to. It goes without saying that this argument will never end, because there will always be some ignorant, bible-toting, insecure house-wife who secretly fantasizes about being bent over by her pool boy or dreams of the life she could’ve had, if she only had the BALLS- as you mentioned. Continue enjoying the knowledge that your openness is appreciated by those of us who ‘get it’. I just started my own blog of a similar nature… I’d love your thoughts on it. xoxo

    Porter Edwards said:
    February 2, 2014 at 10:36 pm

    The amount of pain, suffering, and even DEATH that has been brought into this world because of some antiquated, patriarchal requirement for sexual fidelity in a committed relationship is staggering. If we could just admit to ourselves that neither the church nor our secular society possesses enough wisdom to explain to people exactly why committed relationships should last for life and feature sexual loyalty to just one partner, we’d be able to move more quickly toward actually being happy.

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