Sex with your Sugar Daddy

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I see more and more people coming to the blog regarding sex with their Sugar Daddy (or Sugar Baby).  Let’s use some common sense here.  Sex should happen because you want it to, not because someone is offering their company or an allowance.  Everyone has different rules or perspectives when it comes to sex, but one thing should remain constant….HAVE SEX BECAUSE YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH THAT PERSON.

Sex should never feel forced or out of obligation, regardless of the type of relationship you are in.  In sugar dating we all know that it is expected most times.  Why on earth would you involve yourself with someone whom you don’t feel comfortable getting intimate with? That just wastes everyone’s time.  In real life shit happens all the time.  We have one night stands, sleep with someone too soon or choose to move on before it gets to that stage.  The common denominator is choice.  YOU make the choice to sleep with someone or not.  In sugar, it should not be any different.  Sometimes the chemistry can be amazing and intimacy follows quickly and naturally. Sometimes it takes a few dates or just plain ‘ol time to feel like you are ready for that, with this person. Don’t over think it.

When choosing a sugar daddy or sugar baby, be selective. Pick someone with whom you enjoy spending time with.  Take the money out of the equation and ask yourself if you would have this person in your life without the “extras”.  If yes, carry on.  If no, re-evaluate your decision.  I know that sugar is hard at times and finding the “right” sugar daddy can be a daunting task.  If you choose wisely from the beginning, things should fall into place however.

Stop settling people!  If I search SA locally, I have 600+ Sugar Daddies within 25 miles.  Let’s say 200 are fakes or jerks.  That still leaves 400 to pick from.  With that many choices, why the hell would I just go for money and ponder over the “sex” question?  Personally, I wouldn’t.  It would be no different if I were talking about Match or POF, by the way.  My dating approach is universal.  My life=my choice in whom I give my time to.

All of the questions of “how do I please”? and “what do I do”?, can be answered by only you and your SB/SD.  I think that initial conversations should touch on sexual desires.  How else are you going to know if you will be compatible? If he’s into kink, you have to like it or be willing to try it. If you want something to flow more naturally, just say so for sweet sugar baby jesus’ sake!  COMMUNICATE!! You will find yourself bed and relationship hopping through trial and error, if you do not talk about sex in the beginning. Remember that this is not necessarily “love” and/or going anywhere serious.  Although you should take some time to get to know this person, this is not the man that you will marry or have children with.  At the end of the day, it is an affair.  Affairs are supposed to be fun, uncomplicated and freeing for both involved.

Part of why we are sought out is for “least complication”, so to speak.  Whatever his reason for seeking a sugar baby, he is filling a void in his life.  Sexually,personally, socially; a lot of men (especially married men) can’t find a woman who is open to the type of relationships we have with them.  By nature, the dynamics of sugar dating are supposed to be simple and straight forward.  Ask and ye shall receive. If the answer is no, then there is someone else who will say yes.  Find your “yes person”.  The person who says yes to you and for whom you would gladly say the same!

I’d love to hear about everyone’s own personal rules or thoughts on sex in sugar relationships…


7 thoughts on “Sex with your Sugar Daddy

    IvyWin said:
    February 6, 2014 at 12:25 am

    I’m so glad you SB-bloggers exist! I’m definitely guilty of over analyzing situations but ultimately I love sex so I personally have to remind myself that I’m entering into an arena where sex is somewhat more important in the confines of an ‘arrangement’ than your average relationship… I’ll explain what I mean later, in the meantime I’d love your thoughts on my new blog as I plan to chronicle every part of my new journey into sugar baby life, and look forward to making some sugar sisters along the way … xo

    chrissy said:
    January 11, 2014 at 3:02 am

    I agree 100% No sexual attraction no arrangement.It’s my rule because eventually he is gonna want intimacy

    Porter Edwards said:
    December 30, 2013 at 7:14 pm

    Obviously, sex is a given in any sugar arrangement. Agreed that there should be mutual attraction. Intimacy enhances the sexual experience, and vice versa, so it’s a win-win for the participants, right?

    Where it gets dicey is when one or both of the participants is unattached and available for a deeper relationship. If you want a deeper, committed relationship, don’t start it off with a sugar arrangement. Expectations get built up and commitment destroys the essence of sugar. A wise man I know once said, you can’t turn a short-term relationship into a long-term one, ever. You can have short long-term relationships or long short-term relationships, but it’s the mind set in either case that determines what kind of relationship it is.

    And sex in long-term relationship takes on a new meaning, completely different from short-term relationship sex. In the former, it’s all about emotional and spiritual bonding (which can also be fun), but in the latter, it’s all about getting off and keeping things exciting and fun. Of course, in a short-term relationship, anything goes so long as the sex is at the center of the relationship, so if love pokes its head up, great. But end the relationship when things become a problem. And, dear readers, a problem exists if one wants something the other doesn’t.

    sbdiaries said:
    December 30, 2013 at 3:31 pm

    Reblogged this on SB Diaries and commented:
    Agreed 100% :)

    I’m guilty of re-blogging again, but sometimes things are just better than you ever could put it yourself!

    Free date Kenya said:
    December 30, 2013 at 7:43 am

    Sex is such a big deal! Just shag your daddy if he wants it. It’s not like he is a kid or you are putting him on the boyfriend probation list. Sex is awesome

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