Sugar dating rules and ethics

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Having rules is not a bad thing. As children we rebel against them, but as we grow and become adults we realize that rules are necessary. They define situations and create boundaries, that protect us from ourselves and outside forces. In dating, sugar relationships are no exception. In fact, as freeing as the experience may be, it still has limits that must be respected. The perimeters of each sugar relationship will always be different. The basics like discretion and respect should be a mainstay though.

I treat the sugar relationships I have no different than “regular” dating, when it comes to my behavior. I am kind, sweet, understanding and loads of fun. I do stick to the basics when it comes to sugar baby staples however. I am not demanding. I leave drama out of it. I am respectful of him and a home life, if he has one. I never take him for granted or take advantage of his generosity.

I receive a lot of email and I follow the stats on my blog pretty closely. I am constantly fielding questions or checking to see what sugar babies and sugar daddies are asking. Sometimes I catch myself shaking my head at people. Sometimes I want to smack them and then give them a big fat hug. Sometimes I want to virtually high five some of you too. More than anything, it makes me happy that I keep this blog. This blog is my outlet for personal experiences, but it is also part of who I am as a writer and student of human nature. The fact that I can give advice or help people while doing it, makes it all the more rewarding.

We are all only human. We are products of our environment and do our best to overcome adversity. Each of our stories is unique. So, what can we do to change the narrative of our life story? The simple answer to to be a better person, right? What if you’re a sugar baby or a sugar daddy? How do you better yourself through sugar?

If you are smart, you will use sugar dating as a platform of enrichment. Not to line your pockets, but to to fill your mind. That could be through formal education, a more worldly view or just the experience itself. Money comes and goes. It builds empires and also crumbles them. It is the experiences and knowledge that you gain, that powers you forward. If you allow yourself to be swept up in the money and fake your way through it; all you have acquired is cash. I say that in a blanketing way, but I hear this story over and over on a very specific level. Girl meets boy. They make an arrangement. All is well. Girl lies to boy. He finds out, yet keeps the relationship going. She stays because the money is good. Boy realizes that he is too involved and something has to give. Boy writes me……

I won’t betray a reader and be more specific than the above synopsis. I will say this though; a lie is a lie is a lie! If you can’t be honest with a man who is paying your bills (and then some), when he has made it clear that this is an open book situation; you are an asshole! You do not deserve his trust, care or concern. I asked my sugar daddy friend Porter about this situation. I wanted the SD perspective on this, as well. Here is what he said…

While I have no problem with his spying on his SB to see if she’s being truthful, or on calling her out on her deception, what he does with the information (as in, stay or go) is the strongest measure of his character. At the end of the day, he is taking $xxxx a month away from his family to pay for her and he needs to have some integrity about that. This is why I now shut down any arrangement if I discover deception of any kind.”

Character and integrity. Amen! Preach Porter!!!! This is why ladies, not only should you listen to your sugar daddy while you are with him; you should have them as friends. As a sugar baby, how often do you think about your allowance as money being taken from that man’s family or business? Your gain is a loss to someone else. So, what would you think of a sugar baby who received nearly six figures, in two years and hasn’t TRULY improved her life?


15 thoughts on “Sugar dating rules and ethics

    sadie said:
    July 8, 2014 at 5:38 pm

    I’m new to this idea as a way to mutually enrich both parties lives; my question is, what is your advice? I’m clueless as to what is acceptable, And the norm… I’m not quite sure where to start!

    anna said:
    October 17, 2013 at 12:48 pm

    I’m a big fan of your blog ;)
    One question: is it ok if a girl makes herself 4-5 years younger in sugaring? i personally think age is really a subject where a lady is allowed not to tell the truth, especiallly if she is perceived younger because of her looks. What do you think? Thank you very much for your answer.

      sugardaddydiaries said:
      October 17, 2013 at 12:51 pm

      It’s absolutely fine, provided you can pull it I happen to look quite a bit younger that I am. My profile says I’m a different age. Most likely it will come out though. My last guy bought me a plane ticket, so my real age came out. We laughed about it though. I’ve also had a SD that was 9 years younger. He knew and didn’t care one bit.

        anna said:
        October 17, 2013 at 1:13 pm

        Merci beaucoup, that was a quick reply ;) I would be very happy if we could continue to talk via email since I would like to ask you for your advice on some personal questions. Would that be possible?

        sugardaddydiaries said:
        October 17, 2013 at 1:15 pm

        De rien mon ami! I have your email, since you commented. Ill send you a hello :)

        sugardaddydiaries said:
        October 17, 2013 at 2:29 pm

        Your email address failed :(

        anna said:
        October 17, 2013 at 3:00 pm

        oh no I’m sorry about this! its a very old one i haven’t used for a long time. i just tried it and yes you are right it doesn’t work. i have another one though ;)

        downtownlasd said:
        October 17, 2013 at 8:00 pm

        There is a lot of gray area here for me. if a woman can pull it off, I don’t have a problem with knowing later what her real age is unless it’s outside of my desired age range. Personally, I’m very specific that I’m looking for someone within a certain range. If a woman is 45 but says she’s 37, that’s a problem for me because I don’t want anyone over 40. It’s just my taste. If a woman says she’s 25 when she’s 20, well that could also be a problem because I set a strict boundary for how young to go. Under a certain age feels like jailbait to me.

        Robert said:
        December 23, 2013 at 3:16 pm

        You contradict yourself from the very blog you are replying to, “I will say this though; a lie is a lie is a lie! If you can’t be honest with a man who is paying your bills (and then some), when he has made it clear that this is an open book situation; you are an asshole”. Or are you now changing your tune and the ‘little white lies’ don’t count? Little lies lead to bigger lies.

        sugardaddydiaries said:
        December 23, 2013 at 3:27 pm

        Robert, if you read my blog, you know I do not condone lying. Fudging ones age is something that happens on both sides of sugar relationships. It’s not harmful to anyone. I’ve dated men that have shaved 10 years off in their profile.

    ellathesugarbaby said:
    October 17, 2013 at 4:33 am

    Great post! I love how you said that sugaring is an enriching form of education. I couldn’t agree more. I’ve learned more about business through the men I’ve dated than I ever have through my BBA!
    Well said, lady :)

      sugardaddydiaries said:
      October 17, 2013 at 12:20 pm

      I’ve gotten so much business advice, it’s silly. I’m a sponge for knowledge and treat every situation as a learning experience.

    downtownlasd said:
    October 16, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    Appreciate the plug, Exa! Love you lots!

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